I wrote an article about breastfeeding. I dropped the F-bomb a lot. It turned out really ridiculous.
I realized something. When talking about breastfeeding, politics, or whatever the controversial issue may be…in the moment it can feel great to outshout or outsmart people who we think are wrong. However, in doing this those people likely aren’t going to change their minds even if they do back off. Instead, they will go to someone else who isn’t as smart or outspoken and fight with them. It seems to me we have only succeeded in passing the fighting along to someone else.
I don’t want to pass fighting to others. What do I want to pass to others? Kindness. Actually putting this into practice can be difficult. With certain people, it’s hard to deeply listen, look the person in the eye, and try to understand. We can choose to see difficult people as an opportunity to practice and an opportunity to be the person you want to be. Acting kind does not make us pushovers or weak people. It means we are strong.
Know who you are, the kind of person you want to be, and then go out there and do your best no matter what happens.
Living your values in life is just like breastfeeding. Literally, all you can do is take your boobs out in front of God and everyone and do it.